So Imagine my surprise when he told me that I have been the cause of countless fights, between him and almost every girl he’s dated since we've known each other. Apparently, I am quite abhorred by the females in his life due to our unique friendship. I’d be lying if I said I didn't find that to be kind of awesome and flattering in the most evil way. We all get a little insecure now and then, but if these women knew just how very, very platonic our friendship is, they would feel quite stupid. And in a way, I’m glad Seth doesn't waste time with these dumb girls anyhow.
Now, Rita* (his current girlfriend) is the one that has been around the longest. Which is odd because she is the one that can't stand me the most. But, he likes (loves) her...and so I don't handle the situation like I normally would. I play nice, keep the chats to a minimum when shes around, even include her at times. It takes alot for him to have a relationship longer than a year. So, being a woman, I try to help as much as possible. Though this in turn tends to effect our friendship as well.
This time, Seth's gf did something very stupid: He was mentioning to her that he planned on coming to Atlanta for my birthday for a visit. Her response: She made him choose between her or me.
Now though it has gotten too the point where I am now annoyed by her(2years of bitching), I can’t say that I blame her; no girl enjoys when her boyfriend is closer to another women than he is her. I just wish she could grasp how much of a non-threat I am, though I guess he did himself no favors by continuing to talk to me as much as he does.
But ...he and I are friends first and foremost, and no new girl or guy will change that.
Not Seth, because he’s no different than most men, and lacks a sensitivity chip, he told her straight up that it was stupid. "She is a good friend, so don’t make me choose between you two because you won’t like the outcome." , and immediately calls me. He still intends to come for the week. And he still intends to stay at my place. And as much as I wanna kick him for hurting the girl he cares about (this one actually moved in!!! thats a NEVER), it will be nice having him around. And you know what? I know that sounds selfish, but, Im in a lot of ways tired of being selfless.
Why can't my friend come see me for my birthday without it turning into a tug o war of the titans? Why cant I just have a week where it's like old times? Well, all times are like old times when we reconnect i mean more like... before "her" times.
Why? Because I love him. *sigh* So i wont let him self sabotage something that he actually cares about. So from now until my birthday.. I wil do what I always do.
1) convince him to go home
2)invite her to come (even though I really don't want to since it tends to only end in her waiting in the car and sucking her teeth)
..if that doesn't work
3)suggest he gets a hotel to ease her mind (which is ridiculous...)
or...he one I dread.. if its too bad
4)tell him to stay...and I will just see him in April
Women suck.
3) I know that they will fix whatever it is.
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